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What is the difference between an open, semi-open, and closed adoption?

Adoption agreements vary. These are general definitions as to the types of adoptions: more

Open Adoption: Open adoption is a form of adoption that allows birth parents to know and have contact with the adoptive parents and the adopted child. Open adoptions usually:

  • Birth parents or other birth family members have some level of contact with the adoptive parents and the adopted child in some way depending on what feels comfortable for everyone.
  • Expectant mothers may take part in selecting the adoptive parents who will raise their children.
  • Adopted children know they have been adopted and may have relationships with one or more members of their birth families. Communication between birth mothers(and sometimes birth fathers, grandparents, or other relatives) and adoptive parents may take place through letters, phone calls, e-mails, or visits.
  • Families communicate in ways that feel comfortable to them. Some send pictures and brief notes. Others celebrate holidays together. The type of contact and how often it happens will depend on the needs and choices of everyone involved, and may change over time.

Open adoption does not mean parenting your child together with the adoptive parents. Like all forms of adoption, the adoptive parents will have the permanent legal rights and responsibilities for parenting and raising the child.

Semi-Open Adoption: In a semi-open adoption, an agency caseworker, lawyer, or other go-between will pass along letters, photos, or other information between you and the adoptive family. This type of adoption allows for birth parents and adoptive parents to communicate and exchange information while maintaining their privacy. Contact information like names or addresses are not shared. Some semi-open adoptions may also involve an anonymous meeting with the prospective adoptive family. An anonymous meeting means that names and contact information are not shared.

Closed Adoption: In a closed adoption , no contact takes place between you and the adoptive family. No information will be given out that identifies the adoptive parents or you as the birth mother. However, nonidentifying information, such as background and medical information about the birth family, will be shared with the adoptive family.

Embryo Adoption

What is embryo adoption?

Embryo adoption is a relatively new process in which couples who have frozen embryos in storage, that they do not plan on using to build their family, agree to release the embryos for transfer to an adoptive couple. more...

What is the difference between embryo donation and adoption?

For the purpose of this website, the term "Donation" is used to reference the act of embryo donors providing embryos to a waiting family. "Adoption" is used to reference the act of a waiting family receiving donated embryos.

What are the benefits of embryo adoption?

There are numerous benefits to embryo adoption. more...

What is embryo adoption?

Embryo adoption is a relatively new process in which couples who have frozen embryos in storage, that they do not plan on using to build their family, agree to release the embryos for transfer to an adoptive couple. The adopting family may be either known or unknown by the donating family. The intent is that the embryos will be transferred into the womb of the adoptive mother so that she and her husband may give birth to a child and be that child's parents.

Embryo donation and adoption exist today because of an assisted reproductive technology procedure called in-vitro fertilization (IVF). The world's first child conceived in vitro was born in Great Britain in 1978, and six years later, a technique was developed for freezing embryos. By freezing unused embryos, couples could have additional transfers at a later time without having to harvest and fertilize additional eggs. As IVF procedure success rates continued to increase, so did the number of frozen embryos.

The first embryo adoption was facilitated by Nightlight® Christian Adoption in 1998. Nightlife created the Snowflakes® Embryo Adoption Program and coined the term "Snowflakes®" in reference to embryos because they are all frozen, unique, and created by God. Read more about the very first Snowflake baby here.

As of 2012, there were approximately 500,000 frozen embryos in storage facilities across the country. When the information was released, it made people question, "What will happen with all these embryos?" The answer to this question has only a few answers; embryos can be donated to research (stem cell research), embryos can be destroyed, embryos can continue to be frozen indefinitely while families wrestle with their fate, or anonymous donation to anonymous couples if you happen to be working with one of the select clinics that offer embryo donation.

What are the benefits of embryo adoption?
  • Reduced Costs. Oftentimes it is lower in cost compared to traditional adoption, egg donation, or IVF.
  • Reduced Wait Times. The average time between submitting an application to receiving a donation is approximately 6 months, much shorter than the average time to receive an egg donation or complete a traditional adoption.
  • Higher Success Rates. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, embryo adoptions have a national pregnancy success rate of 43 percent and live birth rate of 35 percent.
  • Take Home Babies. Should a pregnancy result, there is no risk of failed placements or changes of heart after the birth.
  • Pregnancy & Childbirth. The adoptive mother will have the ability to control the prenatal environment and xperience the joys of pregnancy, childbirth and nursing her adopted child
  • Maternal Age Non-Applicable. If a woman is experiencing premature menopause, or another infertility condition in which her own eggs are not viable for reproductive purposes, she can still become pregnant with a donor embryo.
  • Reveres the Sanctity of Life. The discarding of embryos is ethically problematic for some individuals. Allowing these embryos to be used to help create a new life is an alternative to disposal or use in research.
  • Siblings. Often times multiple embryos are available from a donor. This can result in several genetic siblings being born from the same group of embryos. If the recipient does not use all of these embryos – they can be returned to the original donor to be re-adopted out to another family in need.
  • Medically Safe. This adoption process is regulated by the government and all appropriate disease screening is required by law to protect the recipient.
  • Legally Safe. Despite the connotations associated with the name, an embryo adoption is actually a transfer of property – not the adoption of a child. Therefore, the donating couple is not legally responsible in any way should a child be produced from the embryo.
What are the benefits of embryo donation?

Reduced Costs. It is free to donate embryos to a waiting family as opposed to paying a yearly fee to maintain them in cryopreservation more...

How much does it cost to donate embryos?

Embryo Donation costs nothing to the donor. Prior to donation, it is legally within the donors rights to ask the adopting family more...

How much does it cost to adopt embryos?

Adoption of embryos can actually cost less than a traditional adoption. While most domestic and international adoptions cost more...

What are the benefits of embryo donation?
  • Reduced Costs. It is free to donate embryos to a waiting family as opposed to paying a yearly fee to maintain them in cryopreservation or paying to donate them to scientific research.
  • Reveres the Sanctity of Life. The discarding of embryos is ethically problematic for some individuals. Allowing these embryos to be used to help create a new life is an alternative to disposal or use in research.
  • Legally Safe. Despite the connotations associated with the name, an embryo adoption is actually a transfer of property – not the adoption of a child. Therefore, the donating couple is not legally responsible in any way should a child be produced from the embryo.
  • Helps Families in Need. The act of helping other couples achieve their desired pregnancy is an emotional benefit and provides a valuable destination for the embryos.
How much does it cost to donate embryos?

Embryo Donation costs nothing to the donor. Prior to donation, it is legally within the donors rights to ask the adopting family for reimbursement of proven incurred expenses, such as fees paid to NRFA and cryopreservation storage expenses. Reimbursement must be conducted through approved legal channels. It is illegal to purchase or sell the embryos themselves.

How much does it cost to adopt embryos?

Adoption of embryos can actually cost less than a traditional adoption. While most domestic and international adoptions cost upwards of $20,000 – an embryo adoption and FET (frozen embryo transfer) can be as little as $3,000. Here is the breakdown of expenses you can expect to incur:

Legal Fees: A standard legal contract and processing typically runs around $500.

Transportation: The shipment of the embryos to your clinic usually costs $400-500.

Medical Expenses: $2,500. Depending on the clinic, most doctors charge an estimated flat fee of $1,000 which includes all appointments, sonograms, and the frozen embryo transfer (FET). There is usually an additional fee of $1,500 to use the labortory, embryologist, and facilities for the Embryo Transfer.

Medication: Depending on the medication that your doctor chooses to prescribe and your insurance coverage, your cost here can greatly vary. Typically you are prescribed Estradiol (a pill) to be taken for two weeks prior to the transfer, and progesterone (a pill, suppository, or shot) to be taken for a few weeks after the transfer. Typically, these are pretty inexpensive fertility drugs.

Embryos: While it is illegal for anyone to sell their embryos, it can cost $0-10,000 for you to locate your embryos depending on the method you use to find them and the reimbursement that the donor family requests. Prior to donation, it is legally within the donors rights to ask the adopting family for reimbursement of proven incurred expenses, such as fees paid to NRFA and cryopreservation storage expenses. Reimbursement must be conducted through approved legal channels.

What are the differences between an Open, Semi-Open, Closed or Anonymous Embryo Adoption?

Each type has pros and cons, and different types of typical contact. more...

What is involved in the frozen embryo transfer process?

The Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) process using donor embryos is the same as the FET process using your own embryos. more...

What are the differences between an Open, Semi-Open, Closed or Anonymous Embryo Adoption?

Open

  • Description: Offers direct contact between donating and adopting families on a mutually agreed upon regular basis. Full identities are known.
  • Typical Contact: Phone, email, facebook, sending holiday gifts/birthday presents, and/or occasional visits are all valid potential methods of contact.
  • Pros: Resulting child(ren) could benefit from knowing about his/her genetic background, family members, and medical history.
  • Cons: You may find close contact to be uncomfortable. This type of relationship takes time to build so sometimes finding the right match can take longer.

Semi-open

  • Description: Offers mediated or direct contact on a scheduled basis, though neither regular nor casual contact. At least partial identities, like first names, are known.
  • Typical Contact: Contact is sometimes mediated through an agency. Can include (but is not limited to) emails, letters, and/or pictures (typically once or twice a year at scheduled intervals).
  • Pros: Resulting child(ren) still have access to their genetic background and medical history. This type of adoption could be flexible and grow into a more open situation should both parties desire that change.
  • Cons: Mediated communication could hinder the possibility of a deeper relationship forming between the two families. In the event of a medical emergency, it may or may not be possible for the adoptive family to ask timely health related questions of the genetic family.

Closed

  • Description: Offers no ongoing contact. Donors may request notification of birth through a mediated party; however, no further information is relayed after birth. Partial identities may be known.
  • Typical Contact: Some communication may occur prior to birth. Typically no communication after birth, though some families reserve the right to communicate in the event of a medical emergency.
  • Pros: Adoptive families fully control how and when resulting child(ren) learn of their unique background.
  • Cons: Possible negative emotional toll on future children if questions concerning genetic origin and heritage cannot be answered.

Anonymous

  • Description: Offers no contact. Minimal details are known about donors beyond their basic characteristics provided in the profile information. No identification.
  • Typical Contact: None at all, either before or after the transfer.
  • Pros: Anonymous embryo sets are currently in high supply with low demand for them. This can accelerate the matching process and even, sometimes, cut costs. For some recipients, the great need for these children to have a chance at life is a compelling factor that overcomes the drawbacks of an anonymous relationship.
  • Cons: Possible negative emotional toll on future children when questions concerning genetic origin and heritage cannot be answered. Negligible background is provided on the genetic parents beyond basic physical characteristics.
What is involved in the frozen embryo transfer process?

The Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) process using donor embryos is the same as the FET process using your own embryos. This is referred to as Donor Frozen Embryo Transfer (DFET). The procedure can be performed during a medicated or unmedicated cycle. Some clinics prefer to do a mock cycle first to ensure that you will respond appropriately to any medications used, and that they can insert the catheter through the cervix without incident. A mock cycle is a chance to see how your body responds; no embryos are used during the simulated transfer. Once the cycle is underway, and the lining of the uterus is at an acceptable level, the embryos will be thawed and transferred. A beta pregnancy test will be done 10 – 14 days after the transfer.

Child Adoption

What is domestic adoption?

Domestic adoption involves adoptive parents and a child that are citizens and residents of the United States. more...

What is the difference between private and agency adoption?

Both are types of domestic adoption. Agency adoption is done with the assistance of an agency. Agencies are legally allowed more...

What are the benefits of placing my child for adoption?

The circumstances that lead a birth family to place a child for adoption are never easy or optimal. However, placing a child more...

What is domestic adoption?

Domestic adoption involves adoptive parents and a child that are citizens and residents of the United States. Domestic adoption can be completed in one of two ways. The first is through an agency and is typically referred to as "Agency Adoption". The second is when the birth family and the waiting family connect through personal means, networks, or online. This type of domestic adoption is often referred to as a "Private Adoption".

What is the difference between private and agency adoption?

Both are types of domestic adoption. Agency adoption is done with the assistance of an agency. Agencies are legally allowed to receive funds from waiting families to disperse appropriately to birth families for certain pregnancy related expenses. No financial assistance should ever transfer directly from a waiting family to a birth family. In most cases, agency adoptions take longer to legally finalize and require more post-placement visits.

Private adoption occurs when the birth family and the waiting family connect through personal means, networks, or online; without the assistance of an adoption professional. This type of adoption does not allow for any financial assistance to be transferred between families. Should you begin the path of private adoption and realize there is a need for financial assistance, you can easily sign on with an adoption professional and switch to an agency adoption. Private adoptions are often finalized in a shorter time-frame with only one post-placement visit.

What are the benefits of placing my child for adoption?

The circumstances that lead a birth family to place a child for adoption are never easy or optimal. However, placing a child for adoption can provide many benefits for all involved, especially the child.

Family Stability. Adoption provides benefits to the child by providing a stable and loving environment for them to grow up in. Many women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy do not feel ready to parent a child, either because of age, financial background or social circumstances. Choosing adoption provides stability with adoptive parents who are ready to parent a child. Birth parents may choose the family they wish to adopt their child, giving their baby a planned and supported opportunity.

Understanding. Adoption can provide answers for a child growing up with adoptive parents. With an open adoption, a birth family may have contact with the child and adoptive family. This enables the adopted child to grow up with a better understanding about adoption, and provides both a medical history and ethnic background for an adoptee.

A Positive Future. Families who choose to place a child for adoption benefit from the decision as well. Studies show that after an adoption, birth parents tend to receive more advanced levels of education and find better jobs. They are also less likely to have another unplanned pregnancy and report positive feelings toward adoption and their decision.

Can birth families request financial assistance from waiting families?

Financial assistance should NEVER transfer directly from a waiting family to a birth family. NEVER. more...

What are the differences between Open, Semi-Open, and Closed Adoption Agreements?

Each type has pros and cons, and different types of typical contact. more...

What is involved in the adoption process?

Every adoption experience is unique, but generally speaking you can expect the following events to occur (although not necessarily more...

Can birth families request financial assistance from waiting families?

Financial assistance should NEVER transfer directly from a waiting family to a birth family. NEVER.

If a birth family requires financial assistance, this must be done through an adoption professional at a child placing agency. Financial assistance can only be given in certain circumstances for specific expenses.

What are the differences between Open, Semi-Open, and Closed Adoption Agreements?

Open

  • Description: Offers direct contact between donating and adopting families on a mutually agreed upon regular basis. Full identities are known.
  • Typical Contact: Phone, email, facebook, sending holiday gifts/birthday presents, and/or occasional visits are all valid potential methods of contact.
  • Pros: Resulting child(ren) could benefit from knowing about his/her genetic background, family members, and medical history.
  • Cons: You may find close contact to be uncomfortable. This type of relationship takes time to build so sometimes finding the right match can take longer.

Semi-open

  • Description: Offers mediated or direct contact on a scheduled basis, though neither regular nor casual contact. At least partial identities, like first names, are known.
  • Typical Contact: Contact is sometimes mediated through an agency. Can include (but is not limited to) emails, letters, and/or pictures (typically once or twice a year at scheduled intervals).
  • Pros: Resulting child(ren) still have access to their genetic background and medical history. This type of adoption could be flexible and grow into a more open situation should both parties desire that change.
  • Cons: Mediated communication could hinder the possibility of a deeper relationship forming between the two families. In the event of a medical emergency, it may or may not be possible for the adoptive family to ask timely health related questions of the genetic family.

Closed

  • Description: Offers no ongoing contact. Donors may request notification of birth through a mediated party; however, no further information is relayed after birth. Partial identities may be known.
  • Typical Contact: Some communication may occur prior to birth. Typically no communication after birth, though some families reserve the right to communicate in the event of a medical emergency.
  • Pros: Adoptive families fully control how and when resulting child(ren) learn of their unique background.
  • Cons: Possible negative emotional toll on future children if questions concerning genetic origin and heritage cannot be answered.

Anonymous

  • Description: Offers no contact. Minimal details are known about donors beyond their basic characteristics provided in the profile information. No identification.
  • Typical Contact: None at all, either before or after the transfer.
  • Pros: Anonymous embryo sets are currently in high supply with low demand for them. This can accelerate the matching process and even, sometimes, cut costs. For some recipients, the great need for these children to have a chance at life is a compelling factor that overcomes the drawbacks of an anonymous relationship.
  • Cons: Possible negative emotional toll on future children when questions concerning genetic origin and heritage cannot be answered. Negligible background is provided on the genetic parents beyond basic physical characteristics.
What is involved in the adoption process?

Every adoption experience is unique, but generally speaking you can expect the following events to occur (although not necessarily in this order).

  1. Matching. You meet and agree to work together towards adoption.
  2. Choose an Adoption Professional. This could be a lawyer, agency, or facilitation service that will guide you through the legal process and provide pre-adoption counseling.
  3. Child Placement. The baby is born or the child is presented and placed with the adoptive family. The adoptive family will receive placement paperwork giving them guardianship of the child for insurance purposes.
  4. Finalization. After a pre-determined length of time, the post-placement visit is conducted and the official legal finalization is completed in court. A new birth certificate can be issued at this time.
What expenses are birth families allowed to ask reimbursement for?

As different states and governing authorities vary on the allowable reimbursable expenses they permit, it is extremely important more...

How can you be sure birth families or waiting families are telling you the truth?

You can't ever be 100% sure you are being told the truth. You can do several things to gain more certainty and a higher level more...

What is a homestudy?

A homestudy is a professional document containing information about waiting families. Required for the finalization of every more...

What expenses are birth families allowed to ask reimbursement for?

As different states and governing authorities vary on the allowable reimbursable expenses they permit, it is extremely important that you consult with an adoption professional before asking or promising certain expenses. Making a misstep in this area could nullify your potential adoption agreement.

How can you be sure birth families or waiting families are telling you the truth?

You can't ever be 100% sure you are being told the truth. You can do several things to gain more certainty and a higher level of comfort with potential matches. A Homestudy will allow birth families to read the opinion of a licensed social worker on many aspects of the potential adoptive family. The birth mother's pre-natal medical records will present pertinent information to a waiting family about the child in question. Your adoption professional can also assisted you in gathering information concerning medical, educational, and family backgrounds.

What is a homestudy?

A homestudy is a professional document containing information about waiting families. Required for the finalization of every adoption, the home study is a written report of the findings of the social worker who has met with the applicants on several occasions, both individually and together, usually at the social worker's office. At least one meeting will occur in the applicant's home. If there are other people living in the home, they also will be interviewed by the social worker. It highlights items such as relationships, interactions with children, your neighborhood, and your childhood. A home study also requires prospective Adoptive Parents and other adults living in the home to receive an FBI fingerprint background clearance. The home study helps potential birth families and the courts determine if a stable environment exists for a family to receive an adoptive placement. NRFA offers its members a homestudy service at a discounted rate, which can be found under My Account, then by clicking on Additional Features.

When should waiting families begin the homestudy process?

It is extremely important that the home study be started immediately. Your home study must be completed and you must be approved more...

Is there any way to save on adoption fees?

Birth families do not have to pay anything to participate in an adoption plan. There are several ways that adoptive families more...

When should waiting families begin the homestudy process?

It is extremely important that the home study be started immediately. Your home study must be completed and you must be approved for placement by a child-placing agency before you can take your baby home. In many instances, waiting families have been present with adoption opportunities within a week or two of listing their profile on NRFA, so the key here is to be ready. Do not miss an adoption opportunity due to not having a completed homestudy!

Is there any way to save on adoption fees?

Birth families do not have to pay anything to participate in an adoption plan. There are several ways that adoptive families can save, raise, or be reimbursed for the adoption expenses they incur. The following are potential ways to do this:

  1. The Federal Adoption Tax Credit
  2. Federal Child Tax Credit
  3. State Tax Credit
  4. Employer Benefits
  5. Loans and Grants

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You've run through the profile wizards, or maybe you've browsed other user profiles, and now you're ready to start communicating, more...

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Go to the My Account page, a link is at the top right hand of the homepage of NRFA.org. On the left had side of the page, more...

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It is important to keep your personal information up to date. First, make sure you are on the My Account page. The link to get

How do I upgrade my account?

You've run through the profile wizards, or maybe you've browsed other user profiles, and now you're ready to start communicating, start running background checks, and start finding the perfect fit for your family. First, you can click the Your Account link located on the upper right side of the NRFA webpages.

Next, visit the Membership Information section about halfway down the page. You'll see that your current membership plan is highlights next to Account Status. To change your membership, click Select a Plan.

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How do I edit my personal information? (address, email, password, etc.)

It is important to keep your personal information up to date. First, make sure you are on the My Account page. The link to get on Your Account is at the top right of the homepage. Along the left hand side you'll see your Account & Settings choice most of the way down the list. You can use this to change your email address or resend the activation email if required. Also on the left is a link to Change Password.

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Do people see my contact information?

Your contact information is kept private until you voluntarily share it with providers through private messaging. Additionally, you will notice that everyone on NRFA.org appears with only a first name.

How do I reset my password?

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If you are receiving emails through the NRFA messaging center and would prefer not to hear from certain users, you can choose to block them. To block a member, go to the messaging center, and select a message from that member. On the message there is an option to block the member. This can be undone if you later change your mind.

Why was my account not approved?

If you have received an email indicating that your account has not been approved, it is often the result of unintentionally more...

Why was my photo not approved?

Use the checklist below to be sure your photo meets the following approval standards. Once you have met these requirements more...

How do I cancel my subscription?

You've found your family match and now you're ready to cancel your account. Visit the Your Account page, and navigate to more...

Why was my account not approved?

If you have received an email indicating that your account has not been approved, it is often the result of unintentionally setting up a profile in the wrong location of the website (agency filing as birth mother, donor registering as adoptee). Your account may also not be approved because we may have determined that you do not meet the eligibility requirements set forth in the terms of use for participating in NRFA.org. We also reserve the right not to approve your account for any reason or no reason, with or without notice. Furthermore, we have no obligation to notify you of the reason, if any, we did not approve your account.

Why was my photo not approved?

Use the checklist below to be sure your photo meets the following approval standards. Once you have met these requirements you can resubmit your photo at any time.

  • The orientation of your photo must be uploaded correctly.
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  • No pictures that are too blurry, or too dim.
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  • Everyone in the picture must be fully clothed, including children.
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  • Photos should be in line with NRFA.org's terms and conditions
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You've found your family match and now you're ready to cancel your account. Visit the Your Account page, and navigate to the Membership Information section on the left side of the page. Here you will find the option to cancel your account. By setting your account to cancel, you are telling your account not to renew at the end of your current subscription period, and you will no longer be charged. You can perform this action well ahead of time so that it will automatically cancel for you at the end of your current subscription period. Please note that once your account downgrades, you will retain use of your account until your account expiration date.

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Do people see my personal information?

The only private information we make publicly visible on NRFA.org is your first name (if you use your real name). Most profile information is optional so you choose what to share and make public. If you are a birthmother your information is private and only seen by waiting families you contact.

How do I update my profile information?

Creating your profile is one of the most important things you can do to stand out on NRFA.org. Every message you send out is tied directly back to your profile. As you are browsing through members on NRFA.org, those families are also browsing through profiles. A strong profile includes detailed information that can help families and individuals understand your desires and background that make you unique among applicants. For more ideas about strengthening your own profile, check out our help section about getting better responses on NRFA.org. And remember you can update your profile at anytime.

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Yes. At any time you can choose one of our optional services to help you with your adoption journey.

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You start by signing up and creating a profile. For birth parents the service is free. For others we don't collect your credit card until you've determined your profile is complete and you want it to appear in our search results.

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How do users communicate securely?

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Our service allows you to receive and reply to messages from other users without revealing your personal email address. Messages are sent and received from an nrfa.org email address assigned to your account. When you create your NRFA account we will send you a confirmation email to verify your email address. It is important that you verify your email address to avoid future messages from other users going to your spam folder.

Be extra cautious if you receive messages agencies offering services. If you think the contents of this message are inappropriate in any way—whether it's spam, a scam, or suggestive—we'd like to know. Notify our Customer Care team.

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What precautions does NRFA take to help maintain a safe community?

One precaution we take is to check certain information some members provide us against various databases and other sources for criminal or other inappropriate activity. In addition, our dedicated safety team reviews profiles for suspicious more

What precautions does NRFA take to help maintain a safe community?

One precaution we take is to check certain information some members provide us against various databases and other sources for criminal or other inappropriate activity. In addition, our dedicated safety team reviews profiles for suspicious and inappropriate content and investigates job posts, profiles and messages that are flagged by our members as objectionable. While we view these as important initial steps, they are only preliminary checks and do not catch everything; the best safety precautions are the ones you take.

Safety

How do I know which family or adoption professional to choose?

The placing or adopting of a child will be one of the most important decisions of your life. Neither decision should more...

How do I know if a situation is "Too good to be true?"

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Adoption can be an emotionally charged experience for all that are more...

How familiar should I be with the legalities of adoption?

You don't need to be a lawyer, but you should be aware that adoption law varies from state to state, province to province more...

How do I know which family or adoption professional to choose?

The placing or adopting of a child will be one of the most important decisions of your life. Neither decision should be entered into lightly or without much thought and research. Take time to research and consider all potential families and adoption professionals without moving too far, too fast, with the first option that presents itself to you.

How do I know if a situation is "Too good to be true?"

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Adoption can be an emotionally charged experience for all that are involved. Beware the person that appears to be answering all of your questions the way you want them to, or someone who oversimplifies the process. If things begin to move too fast, too easily, or you begin to feel wary of the situation, you should consult an adoption professional for advice. If something doesn't sound or feel right to you – trust your instincts.

How familiar should I be with the legalities of adoption?

You don't need to be a lawyer, but you should be aware that adoption law varies from state to state, province to province, and country to country. Researching the basic law of your state will help you to communicate with both your adoption professional, birth family or waiting family. The more educated you are, the more prepared you will be to recognize early signs of fraudulent behavior. You may want to explore the following questions:

  • Does your state limit the payment of expenses for placing parents?
  • Is there a Putative Father Registry or other procedure to make sure the father's rights are respected?
  • Is there a time during which placing parents can change their minds after signing relinquishment papers?
  • What is the mandatory wait time after placement before the adoption can be finalized? Does it differ for private versus agency adoptions?
Who can I go to for advice?

Those who have been through the process, whether placing or adopting, have a wealth of knowledge and experience to share. more...

What is fraud?

Fraud is generally presumed to mean any form of intentional misrepresentation or illegal act, adoption fraud can include more...

What does adoption professional fraud look like?

An adoption agency or facilitator that charges exorbitant fees, and is not properly staffed is committing fraud. Agencies more...

Who can I go to for advice?

Those who have been through the process, whether placing or adopting, have a wealth of knowledge and experience to share. Support groups can be found locally in your community, and on the Internet, and many have shared their experiences in stories and articles.

What is fraud?

Fraud is generally presumed to mean any form of intentional misrepresentation or illegal act, adoption fraud can include (but is not limited to):

  • Adoption professional fraud
  • Waiting family fraud
  • Birth family fraud
What does adoption professional fraud look like?

An adoption agency or facilitator that charges exorbitant fees, and is not properly staffed is committing fraud. Agencies can also commit fraud by accepting money for services never rendered, misrepresenting the emotional and physical history, or background of a child.

How do I avoid adoption professional fraud?

Begin by reviewing their status on NRFA. If they have been pre-screened, NRFA has taken several steps toward examining more...

What does waiting family fraud look like?

Portraying an inaccurate description of themselves or purposefully misleading the birth family in order to gain their more...

What are the warning signs for waiting family fraud?

Procrastination. If a waiting family shows hesitation or procrastination about giving you the contact number of more...

How do I avoid adoption professional fraud?

Begin by reviewing their status on NRFA. If they have been pre-screened, NRFA has taken several steps toward examining their business history and reviews. Next contact the state licensing specialist in your area and request information concerning their license status, complaints, and legal actions taken against them. Finally, the Better Business Bureau offers guidelines specific to adoption and can be a source of information about the business license, legal actions, and principals' names.

What does waiting family fraud look like?

Portraying an inaccurate description of themselves or purposefully misleading the birth family in order to gain their trust and the placement of a child. Some waiting families will commit to multiple birthmothers, with the intention of accepting the first placement that comes through.

What are the warning signs for waiting family fraud?

Procrastination. If a waiting family shows hesitation or procrastination about giving you the contact number of their adoption professional, sharing their homestudy and background check information with you, or delaying a meeting it could be a major warning sign.

Requesting Information. Any requests for identifying information or personal information concerning your identity, bank accounts, location, school or job should be a major warning sign. Do not give the information and cease contact if you feel uncomfortable.

Promises of Financial Assistance. The law dictates that expenses should be paid directly to an adoption professional, not to the birth family directly. If a waiting family offers to pay you "under the table" you should cease the relationship immediately. This is illegal, and could be cause for your state's Child Protection Division to remove your child from you at birth to be put in the state's custody. If a waiting family attempts to entice you with promises of large amounts of financial support, this is also impossible due to legal regulations, and these persons should be considered highly suspect. If they are not truthful with you about financial assistance, you cannot assume they are being truthful with other information they are giving you.

Online Clues. Google the family's name, email, Instant Messaging name, or any other contact information to see what information is available online for them. If you feel awkward, just realize that they are probably doing the same on you.

Scam Support. There are many online support groups that share information about adoption scams. We highly recommend joining the yahoo group Adoption Scams, and reporting any suspicious information or questionable conduct.

What does birth family fraud look like?

An expectant or biological parent accepting money for expenses from more than one prospective adoptive parent, with more...

What are the warning signs of birth family fraud?

Procrastination. If a birth family shows hesitation or procrastination about contacting your adoption professional, more...

What does birth family fraud look like?

An expectant or biological parent accepting money for expenses from more than one prospective adoptive parent, with or without any intention of completing the adoption process. Often they are seeking money, but sometimes just the attention.

What are the warning signs of birth family fraud?

Procrastination. If a birth family shows hesitation or procrastination about contacting your adoption professional, completing a pre-natal medical record release form, relaying proof of pregnancy (sonograms, pictures, etc.), or meeting then it could be a major warning sign.

Requesting Information. Any birth family requests for identifying information or personal information concerning your identity, bank accounts, wealth, home, or job should be a major warning sign. Do not give the information and cease contact if you feel uncomfortable.

Requesting Financial Assistance. Always pay allowable birthmother expenses directly to an adoption professional, not to the expectant woman herself. Urgent requests for rent, groceries, or other expenses can be a warning sign that her need for finances may be her leading motivation, and not the interest of the child.

Online Clues. Google the woman's name, email, Instant Messaging name, or any other contact information to see what information is available online for her. If you feel awkward, just realize that she is probably doing the same on you.

Scam Support. There are many online support groups that share information about adoption scams. We highly recommend joining the yahoo group Adoption Scams, and reporting any suspicious information or questionable conduct.